When does priest/director interaction become micromanagement?
  • I am a longtime music minister (cantor, pianist, former director) who has finally left music ministry after many months of frustration. Our pastor currently denies our very competent, talented director the ability to choose appropriate hymns for the choir. He decided that the congregation was tired of hearing the same singers every weekend, and despite not having adequate musical coverage for weekend masses, has made a rule that a singer may only participate musically in one mass. In an attempt to have children’s choirs cover the main mass, the children, who are dependent on parents to bring them, do not consistently show up to provide adequate support. I was not the only competent musician in the shrinking adult choir. I have discussed the situation with the pastor, who says every hymn is his responsibility, and then he complained he has too much to do and no time. I have suggested trusting his director, who he hired himself, and the musicians, who by the way kept the music going for months between director hires (not once, but twice in the past 4 years.) Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do? I am out now because the frustration and stress was affecting my spiritual health, but I still care deeply, and I’m hoping my absence will speak volumes.
  • SponsaChristi
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    I’ve experienced worse on account of being a woman with a full range, but low tessitura that gives some tenors a run for their money.

    I have learned that sometimes you just have to let natural consequences do their thing and hope people learn from their mistakes. I have far greater things to stress about than a volunteer ministry position.
  • MatthewRoth
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    He needs to back off
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  • Liam
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    The pastor gets to eat the soup he is cooking.
  • TLMlover
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    "...every hymn is his responsibility," How about the propers? Why would he care so much about hymns when the first choice in the GIRM are the propers?

    As far as hearing the same singers every week, maybe he's subtly trying to exclude less-than-beautiful voices? If a cantor is good, why should anyone object to hearing a good, professional voice at more than one Mass?
  • SponsaChristi
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    As far as hearing the same singers every week, maybe he's subtly trying to exclude less-than-beautiful voices?

    Maybe, but something seems off given the high director turnover rate.
  • ServiamScores
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    “And some people get tired of the homilist every week.” lol
  • PaxMelodious
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    the pastor, who says every hymn is his responsibility


    Every hymn, every ordinary, every proper IS his responsibility.

    If you have a problem with that, you will fundamentally have a problem with working in any Catholic church role.

    Yes, some choose to delegate. It's nice when it happens. There are certain practical issues when they don't. But they are not required to do so. And we non-clergy have no right to expect it.
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  • MatthewRoth
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    Then don’t hire a DM.
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  • irishtenoririshtenor
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    I mean, if it's clearly set out at the get-go that the priest will be making all selections of hymnody, then folks can choose to play by those rules or not. I might be able to work under those circumstances if the priest is adept at such a task. Is he doing a decent job of selecting hymnody?

    His being the one to assign cantor/choir Mass dates and times seems a little funky, but is he doing a decent job of it? Are you suggesting that the children's choir is not suited to the Mass times they are being assigned? Maybe this isn't possible, but perhaps you could inquire what criteria he uses to assign Masses to this or that singer/group.
  • DrJS
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    The "one Mass per weekend per singer" rule sounds like mismanagement to me. I wonder if the current director could gently suggest to the priest that having the children's choir sing at the main Mass every week, while a worthy goal, takes years of program building and education to accomplish. The same could be said for a large enough adult choral program for multiple groups in rotation.
    Unfortunately, micromanagement and mismanagement from the priest creates an impossible situation for the DM. The interference prevents success, and any failures fall on the DM. This in turn creates the revolving door of a DM position you describe.
    You did the right thing by speaking with the priest. If he doesn't listen to good counsel, then it was indeed time to move on.


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  • dad29
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    There is a very good reason why this guy Dad29 will NEVER again work in a church. Lotsa priests who do not know their limits.

    Wasn't that way 40 years ago!
  • davido
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    Were priests 40 years ago often more adept at social interactions? My perception of clergy from my childhood to now is that now they are often awkward fellows who don't know good ways to interact with people.
  • Liam
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    If ordained and religious life attracts personal temperaments inclined to developing mastery of complex systems of information and exercising said mastery in their ministry, such persons' appetite for control typically only erodes with the vicissitudes of age and erosion of energy through buffeting by life experience.....