Extremely loud singing from a congregant/staffer...
  • matthewjmatthewj
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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E-O49GhDM4Y
  • CharlesW
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    Interesting that when this started playing, one of YouTube's incessant adds popped up - "change your underwear..." I don't know what they were expecting.
  • GavinGavin
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    Here's my advice:

    Don't be a jerk.
  • noel jones, aagonoel jones, aago
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    I wonder if I should just work up the courage and tell her directly.

    I wonder if it is worth losing your paycheck for going against the pastor's instruction to you. No one knows why he told you to leave it alone. He may have a very good reason or not.

    But he told you to leave it alone. [added - and he IS your pastor even if he is not your employer]
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  • matthewjmatthewj
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    I'm not sure this person works at this church.
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  • matthewjmatthewj
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    Gavin's advice is pretty good... that's one of the things I tell musicians who come to me for advice... the other thing I like tell musicians is "act normal." Somehow most of them never master that.
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  • chonakchonak
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    I'm assuming that lacrimosa is a volunteer choir member, not a paid staffer.

    It's always good to remember that we are responsible for the actions we choose, but we're not responsible for our unchosen feelings: our basic reactions to events.

    If some ongoing disruption in your parish's Mass distracts you from participating, you don't have to treat that as some personality flaw on your part. It's not. People react to these things in different ways. Some people notice such things, some don't. As one author quipped in a short story, some people are so insensitive that you couldn't insult them unless you were to hit them with a frying pan.

    Maybe you could benefit from attending a more peaceful Mass, perhaps at your parish, or perhaps elsewhere. So look around. Perhaps if the timing allows, the calmer Mass may leave you feeling fortified enough, so that you could continue to serve your parish in the choir and feel more unruffled about the oddities that happen from time to time.
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  • noel jones, aagonoel jones, aago
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    As one author quipped in a short story, some people are so insensitive that you couldn't insult them unless you were to hit them with a frying pan.


    Good advice! Non-stick or cast iron, which works best in your own experience?
  • CharlesW
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    Heavy GIA hymnal. Better than non-stick or cast iron.
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