I've attached our current list. I actually need to update it as a few things have gone the way of the Dodo (not least of which is our hymnal). I am seriously contemplating limiting the options of the family to only one or two selections (offertory and communion hymns, essentially, and the choice of which refrain they want for the psalm, although they do not get to choose which music it is set to), and defaulting to the proper chants (if even in the vernacular) as a hard and fast rule. I have a lovely transcription of In Paradisum into English that has been very well received and is now my go-to as the body is wheeled out. I'm also a fan of chanting the Libera me during the incensation, albeit truncated. So, take this all with a grain of salt, but it can serve as a model nonetheless.

Attached are the funeral and wedding forms.

This is what we use. On a letter head.