I'm trying to find an old church blog where the writer would wander from church to church every weekend and write about what he experienced at every church's liturgy. Google searches for "wandering parishioner" and "masked parishioner" and "incognito parishioner" have turned up nothing. I remember looking at this blog years ago with church music friends to see if our churches had been visited yet, and see the guy's review.
It's rather fascinating that those questions are featured. Are those the things I'd want to know? What are the reasons I go where I go? Access to bathrooms, quietness and cleanliness rank fairly high, when I have a choice. I live in a big tropical city with crumbling infrastructure, so those three can be hard to find.
I have very mixed feelings about most places I go regularly, which limits my enthusiasm for inviting others. This seems a problem worth solving, since ideally I would happily invite friends to Church. Or maybe people don't do that? I used to get invited, especially by Protestants. I sometimes invite non-practicing people to a liturgy where the music will be especially interesting to them or where the church building/location are unusually beautiful, since that seems an easy way to engage with sitting in a pew for an hour or more, for someone who doesn't otherwise have much interest.
But I would like to develop more enthusiasm for just inviting people anyway, anywhere I might go. I find the "evaluations" thing a bit cringe-worthy. That I myself do it, as if on autopilot, seems cringe-worthy, too. So that will be a goal for this year - no cringing; invite more people.
What questions would Jesus ask, if He were asking in that "I already know but I'd like to hear your answer" way that He sometimes used with the disciples?
When visiting other places I've learned (and am still learning) to say to myself, "I'm not in charge of the music here, so it's not my business to be the music police." Of course, this is not a problem when attending early morning or daily Masses without music.
My mother died a few days ago and she was a Catholic convert. When she was at a theological college studying to be a missionary in the 1940's, she went to Christmas Midnight Mass in Boston at the prompting of another girl who was not Catholic. It was the first time she had been in a Catholic church. She was a very musical person. Soon after that she began her thesis on the errors of Catholicism and eventually she converted!
Inviting people to church is risky, but it is our commission to "make disciples of every nation."
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