Any suggestions as to how to break it gently to the conductor that a competent and experienced pianist of organist doesn't really need to be conducted when playing alone?
If there is an "outro" (great term I stole from my brother) after the choir finishes, I like to think that I am musician enough to observe the dynamics and the rallentando and when to release the final chord.
Or, someone who is used to conducting orchestras or bands might just not know what to do with their hands when standing in front of a group of performers with someone playing solo. Picking your ears isn't an option, or at least not a very good one.
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