What the pastor/parish is willing to pay What the organist is willing to accept Location And to a lesser extent the experience/expertise of the musician.
The AGO used to publish a suggested schedule of fees, but the US Government said it violated competition law. As I am not in the US I might be safe sending you a link to a 2001 copy of what the Los Angeles Chapter thought then.
In my region: 1. $115-$200 per 2. same as Mass if it's a separate rehearsal rather than just before Mass 3. $150-$300 4. $75-$200 5. You are responsible for self-preparation; not compensated additionally
I charge for my services and pay substitute accompanists at the top of those ranges. Never had any wedding nor funeral family balk at the music fees since I increased them to those higher amounts in the fall of 2021. I think the music stipends that are typical in my diocese are too low, but maybe not when you account for the musicianship they're getting at other parishes. I wasn't afraid to break from the pack and lead by setting a higher stipend amount for my services, besides which I think the amounts on the lower end of the range are insulting.
In the Twin Cities (MN) I was paid $225 per wedding. When I hired weekend subs it was $150 per Mass. Funeral stipends were $100 but families were not charged for funerals (the $ came out of the parish budget).
My stipend is $200 for a mass, full rehearsal, or wedding. If the pertinent parties seem impecunious I will offer discounts. Funerals I'm more flexible about.
I do not do wedding rehearsals, and if extra rehearsals with singers and/or instrumentalists are required the wedding fee becomes $300.
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