Bums, backpacks, and Mass attendance requirements-Oh my.
  • I was just informed that last weekend, there was an "incident" at the Mass most of the CCD kids, including my kids, attend. Bums aren't anything new to our church, but they usually panhandle in our parking lot or doorway. A man entered the church with a backpack. He sat in the very front row. He was not participating at all-like not even standing or kneeling, yeah yeah I know no one participates at Mass but this guy was taking it literally. Several families started to leave the church, well before Communion. So, I get a message today from the religious education director, announcing that Mass attendance for CCD families is, for the time being, "no longer mandatory".

    I'm not one to act holier than thou, and had I been in that situation (which of course I wasn't because I was at work church and attend with my family on Saturdays), I would have probably done the same thing. In this day and age, our fear takes over and anyone with a backpack is a potential shooter or terrorist. But to suspend Mass requirement indefinitely?? I don't think that is necessary. The police are involved and hopefully we will find out he was just a bum with some mental issues that needed help and wasn't there to hurt us.
    At any rate, pray for our church and for the man who's got everyone there too scared to go to Mass.
  • CharlesW
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    I was playing for Stations and Benediction a short few years back when a street person climbed the stairs to the loft. He wanted a handout, of course. I was alone, and also too busy to deal with him. After that, I started locking the loft door when alone. We have had a couple of serious shootings at churches in my town. It could happen anywhere.
  • Same here. One of the inner city parishes just a few blocks from our house was the scene of two murders in one year. One was a robbery of an 80 year old woman and the other was mistaken identity. Crazy.
  • Reval
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    Now, when I saw "bums" I thought this was going to be about inappropriate attire.
  • eft94530eft94530
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    I think it reasonable to contact the Chancery to ask the Human Resources department provide protocols to parishes and present training for all employees and volunteers -- Priests, Ushers, EMHCs, Lectors, Musicians, etc -- so all are on the same page about appropriate responses to situations. Maybe a ShieldTheVulnerable or Virtus add-on?
  • Can this problem be addressed merely by employing security personell who are on duty at all parish functions?

    Not at all meaning to belittle the danger of truly undesirable and disturbed persons lurking about, but do we run a danger of paranoia directed at anyone, homeless or otherwise, who approaches or enters who happens to be shabbily attired because he or she is just some poor soul seeking the Lord's blessing and peace but has no 'soft clothing' like the rest of us? The danger of dangerous persons is real, but so is the danger of that pride which immediately shuns anyone who doesn't look like us and may need us.
  • Like I said before, homeless people are not infrequent visitors. But this guy definitely didn't fit the usual descriptions. There are "regulars" that panhandle in the parking lot but they've never come inside, to my knowledge anyway.

    Are we too paranoid today? Yes. Do we have legitimate reasons to be unnerved by an unknown person sitting RIGHT IN THE FRONT ROW with a backpack? Sadly, yes again.

    Could my church have dealt with this better? I don't know, but knowing how some people are there, I'll say yeah we could do better. The ushers have been instructed to be pretty rude and heartless to the panhandlers. How this guy managed to get all the way into the front of the sanctuary without being stopped is also a mystery.

    I received another message, which rather stupidly stated "a homeless man attended the 10:45 Mass and prompted security concerns" or something to that effect.

    For what it's worth, I don't believe in allowing this culture of fear to prevent us from attending Mass. The decision to no longer mandate attendance for the students because their parents feeeeeel u comfortable is ridiculous. I don't fear driving through the most dangerous part of town to get to work, I don't fear flying on airplanes. I don't fear anything the media or popular culture tells us to. That's what I don't like about how this is being handled...
  • we run a danger of paranoia directed at anyone, homeless or otherwise, who approaches or enters who happens to be shabbily attired because he or she is just some poor soul seeking the Lord's blessing and peace but has no 'soft clothing' like the rest of us


    Absolutely, Jackson.
  • Jani
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    Strange story. Perhaps living in a small parish makes me naive, but didn't anyone at any point speak to the guy? Not even the priest?
  • CharlesW
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    A number of my choir members have concealed carry permits, so anyone causing trouble at a Sunday mass might get caught in the crossfire. I have never felt the need to carry weapons and am in a radically different situation if someone wanders into the loft, where they have no business being to start with. The diocese has never addressed any of this, as far as I know, and leaves it up to the parishes. Pay a security guard? Getting a good laugh over that one.
  • bhcordovabhcordova
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    It's a sad day when we are so caught up in our own fears that we don't reach out to the stranger in need. So, a supposedly homeless man came into the church, sat down in front and didn't cause a disturbance. Instead of being thankful that one of God's people came in to spend a few minutes in worship, fear takes over. Sad day indeed.
  • CharlesW
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    That has happened with us when someone walked in and sat down. Given current standards of dress, some of our wealthier members often dress as if they are homeless. Those strangers are left alone unless they approach members and ask for money, act in a threatening manner, or go into areas where they clearly don't belong.
  • matthewjmatthewj
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    If any of you have seen the video of the incident in Newark where the Bishop was punched - its clear evidence that having security guards is no guarantee of security. As the man punches the Bishop he's rushed by more than one uniformed security guard... but somehow he walked into the sanctuary and punched the Bishop in the face before they acted.
  • Liam
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    " . . . so anyone causing trouble at a Sunday mass might get caught in the crossfire."

    FTFY.

  • fcbfcb
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    I believe that it is the traditional role of the deacon to provide security at the liturgy. You just need to add it to your deacon's job description.
  • ClergetKubiszClergetKubisz
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    A verger might be a good addition if security is a concern.. I forgot to put that in purple the first time.
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  • CharlesW
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    . . . "so anyone causing trouble at a Sunday mass might get caught in the crossfire." FTFY


    Collateral damage

    I believe that it is the traditional role of the deacon to provide security at the liturgy.


    You've got to be kidding! We have three elderly deacons, one has Lupus, one has Parkinson's, and the third one would likely cut and run if he didn't trip over himself.

  • Interesting. Both of our deacons are healthy and capable men, one is an emergency room physician. I wouldn't be surprised if one of them carries...

  • @Jani- we are the largest parish in our diocese with several thousand members. I believe the priest talked with the man, but only after the police got involved.

    It is not, sadly, an "all are welcome" place, and we pulled our children out of the parish school after six long years of abuse and intimidation. They don't like poor people. Poor people=bad people, to them anyway.
  • A verger might be...

    We have a verger at Walsingham.
    There isn't a hint of disorder when he is wafting his verge about.
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  • CCoozeCCooze
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    One of our deacons is the director of our county's JROTC program. Not that he's incredibly young, but I'd assume his first response to an issue wouldn't be to hide.
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  • donr
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    Our Deacon is a newly retired beat cop. No holding back for him I'd assume.
  • francis
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    OUR deacon with a verger
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    OUR deacon with a verger


    That can't be Sirius.
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  • Adam WoodAdam Wood
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    > Guy with backpack shows up and is weird.
    > Mass attendance is no longer mandatory.

    I am so confused.

    Also, please find some word to describe the unfortunate victims of mental illness, poverty, and homelessness other than "bum."
  • I'm applauding, and sharing, Adam's view of this.

    Interesting that everyone is alarmed because a man wearing a backpack (!) (yes! actually wearing a bakcpack!) somehow got all the way to the front pew. As if that were not bad enough for these Christian gentlefolk, we are told that the priest of this House of God spoke with the man after the police arrived. Hmmm. Do you suppose that Jesus would have called on the temple police if he had been approached by a homeless beggar - and not just any beggar but one wearing a backpack who had somehow made it all the way to the front pew? Well, not the Jesus I know. Maybe the man wanted to be close to God? Is this any way to win souls for Christ? Or, do we just want certain souls? If we don't demonstrate love there are lots of people who will never know what it is.
  • Liam
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    Well, it should be understood that, traditionally, in most Catholic parishes in the USA, the front pews are the penalty boxes, with the rear pews being the most coveted.
  • I had to read all the way to the word "panhandle" to realize you're not talking about someone's rearmost assets. This reminds me of a guy who interrupted our symphony rehearsal one evening. A transient gentleman came right up to the conductor's podium and asked if he could tell a funny story. Two of us players got up and escorted him to the police call box and we rang up the service personnel to come give this guy advice on where to go. It was scary at the time, but the obligation to attend rehearsals faithfully remained with everyone's spirit.
  • @Adam Wood: attendance is no longer mandatory for CCD kids. Makes a lot of sense, I know. Did you see their letter to the parents I shared a few posts earlier? That's how they deal with real-life interactions with the less fortunate. Oh, and no harm meant by my word choice so take your PC word policing and shove it. :-)

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  • AND BEFORE THIS GETS ANY MORE RIDICULOUS I will make it clear again that I DO NOT condone how my church handled this situation. It's par for their sheltered and stuck up course. So those of you pointing arrows at me please kindly lay them down. I am not the enemy here!

    It is, however, enlightening and also sad that so many people here see how wrong the situation is, how rotten my church is even though you've never been there. I have wanted to leave this place for years, and I've been attending Mass elsewhere when I have the chance...sigh.
  • VilyanorVilyanor
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    Are homeless people very frequently the perpetrators of shootings? I really doubt it, the kind of mental illness that keeps people homeless seems like it would also keep people from executing a plan to attack people.

    In fact, after looking it up, only 11% of the perpetrators mass shootings had mental health problems, and I can't find any case in which the perpetrator was homeless, and it's in fact the opposite.

    http://everytownresearch.org/reports/mass-shootings-analysis/

    This is a perfect example of suburban paranoia. It's much easier to stigmatize the stranger, the outsider than to look around and realize the vice and depravity among our peers within our social class, to point at the problem of absent black fathers in other neighborhoods and ignore the distant white fathers in our neighborhoods. If our peers can be messed up, then I could be too, and that's much too uncomfortable. Really Christian, right? It's so much easier to scapegoat an "other" rather than addressing the moral decay of one's society, especially that caused by radical moral relativism and other heresies.

    As an example, there's a lot of paranoia in my parents neighborhood, which is in a relatively affluent part of town, but in every instance I know of in the past 20 years they've lived there, the vandalism and troublemaking, (a friend of mine got mugged by someone who went to his school for instance) has been perpetrated by locals.
  • @Vilyanor: Excellent point. Unfortunately my area is plagued by the heroin epidemic and the affluent communities are now equally affected by the theft and other crimes that accompany that problem. In the letter I shared, they said they saw the man get up and use the restroom, then he returned to his seat and that is when the "strange" behavior started. It is extremely likely he went to shoot up, and they should feel fortunate he didn't pass out and require Narcan. That scene happens multiple times a day, everyday around here. Even the suburban school nurses keep opiate reversing drugs now because it's that prevalent and you never know who has an addiction until they collapse.
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  • CharlesW
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    There have been a couple of local incidents where "homeless" have shot and killed others. The percentage is small, but it never hurts to be on guard. Many of our homeless, bums, panhandlers, or whatever anyone wants to call them, are mired in alcohol and drug addictions. Local charities want to help them, but they have little desire to help themselves, limiting the effectiveness of any help available to them. Yes, they can be dangerous at the right time and in the right circumstances, both unpredictable as to when the times and circumstances might occur. There is no need to mistreat them, but it is a good idea to be "wise as serpents" around them.
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  • I'm really lamenting not being there now. My sister is a recovered addict and I would have been able to tell if he was high or not. My husband is furious about how it was handled and also thought it ironic that the Gospel reading that day was about the Samaritan woman. I really hope the man got help for whatever issues he may have.
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  • Liam
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    Remember the word "burglary"? If you're young, you may only know "home invasion".


  • bhcordovabhcordova
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    AND BEFORE THIS GETS ANY MORE RIDICULOUS I will make it clear again that I DO NOT condone how my church handled this situation. It's par for their sheltered and stuck up course. So those of you pointing arrows at me please kindly lay them down. I am not the enemy here!

    It is, however, enlightening and also sad that so many people here see how wrong the situation is, how rotten my church is even though you've never been there. I have wanted to leave this place for years, and I've been attending Mass elsewhere when I have the chance...sigh.


    I don't think anyone here thought you condoned how your church handled the situation. I think we know you are better than that.
  • melofluentmelofluent
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